The sky is the limit when it comes to romance. The word romance elicits a multitude of images to travel through our minds - roses, poetry, sunsets, getaways, candlelit dinners, and the list goes on and on. Running out of ideas is not what stops us from achieving romance (all you need to do is browse the countless web sites on the Internet for tips); what stops us is a lack of time and energy. Between work, bills, groceries, family, homework, dinner, exercise and social events, let alone the emotional burden of making sure everybody around us is happy, it is practically impossible to even get in the mood. The reality is that it is not that hard to lose enthusiasm for romance, since there is only so much a person can do in 24 hours.
Even if we did manage to make time for romance, it would be shocking if no interruptions occurred, especially if children are living under the same roof. To prove this point, in a survey that I conducted, both men and women did rate distractions such as kids, work, and family obligations as the number one reason hindering their romance, even higher than lack of time.
It is undeniably easier for newlyweds to engage in romantic activities, provided that love is present, than couples who have been married for 10, 20 or 40 years! The challenge is how can you keep the spark ignited when the freshness, excitement and novelty wear off? It is inevitable that the flame will dwindle with time; however, try to make sure that your marriage does not get so cold that it turns to ice. There is no doubt that a complete lack of romance will cause a union to be dead and that the hustle and bustle of everyday life makes it difficult to fit in romance. Nonetheless, it is imperative to rekindle romance and bring it back to life. Both men and women in my survey could not agree more, responding that it is indeed important to have a romantic partner. Read more about the survey and learn the do's and don'ts to keep romance alive in your marriage.
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